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My wife got her hair cut a couple of weeks ago…

When I saw her that evening, I told her that I loved her more than life itself and even though she had just gotten one of the most incredible haircuts in the history of haircuts and she looked more beautiful than Aphrodite, the Goddess of Love, that I didn’t marry her for her hair and that she was beautiful no matter what her hair looked like…

Alright, I admit it… I didn’t really say that… but I did tell her two days later, when I finally noticed her haircut, that even though I hadn’t noticed right away that she looked stunning and more incredible than the day we met and that I appreciated her spending the time to look beautiful for me, but it didn’t really matter what her hair looked like because I loved her no matter what…

Okay… damn… alright, I didn’t say anything like that, but when I did notice like a week later, I said that she looked great but she looked a little different and asked her if she had done anything with her hair, even though it wasn’t really important because she was so beautiful and it didn’t really matter what her hairstyle looked like…

Alright… shit… you got me… I didn’t say any of that stuff, but when I got my own hair cut like a week and ½ later and my daughter noticed my hair and with my wife in the room, she asked me what I thought of Mom’s haircut, I told her that I thought it looked awesome, but I’d been very busy and just hadn’t had the opportunity to compliment her…

Alright… fuck… I admit it… I totally fucked it up again and I didn’t notice she got her haircut.  I don’t think I’ve ever noticed when she’s gotten her haircut and I figure since we met in 1986 I’ve easily had over 100 opportunities. I guess I’m just not that great at stuff like that. She didn’t bitch me out or anything… she is used to me being kind of a doofus when it comes to throwing out compliments for haircuts or new clothes or whatever else comes our way.

I’m glad she has accepted me for who I am. I am by no means perfect in some arenas, but I think I’ve got a lot to offer in others. She’s the same way and we compliment each other and that’s what makes our relationship so great. We rarely fight or have disputes, but we know and understand that marriage is hard, especially when children are involved. Somehow we make it work and we are able to keep some semblance of sanity in our lives. Is it perfect? No, but perfect isn’t really something that any of us can achieve. It is however ours, and that’s all that is necessary to make it right, regardless of haircuts and new shoes and clothes and cars and everything else…

… and for that I consider myself one lucky guy!